Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Not Maternal??

I hesitate to even write this post. I am in a window of free time and this post came to mind. The pen of jen gang has been quite busy and all will be revealed in due time, but, my blogs have suffered slightly.

Since today is Caption Contest Tuesday, I am writing this here. I have not written anything about the Madeleine McCann case because my sympathy is always with the child. Always. I have been a parent for 18 years now. I have made mistakes, some based on ignorance, others because I chose wrong. Fortunately I have never made a mistake that cost me a child. Now for this case, I took the first news stories at face value. The parents were on vacation and left the kids in the hotel room, while they went out for a late night meal. Pure stupidity, for sure. They are both pediatricians. In the U.S they can make a call based on their training and assist in the removal of a child from the home by Child Protective Services. Still I gave the benefit of the doubt. Believe me, we all make mistakes.

When there was a 'possible' sighting, I prayed for the family. I prayed that this was Maddie. Sadly it was not Maddie. We may never know what happened to Maddie. Being the wife of a cop for so long, I do know where the focus should be...first. I know the statistics. So should parents of a missing child. Forget the media...find my child. I cannot even imagine the shear day to day trying to function mode...when all I could think of was where on earth was my baby. Is she safe, warm, loved. Please God do not let her be used. Please God, make the kidnapper be a person who wanted a child to raise as their own. That would be what I would do.

What I would not do is say this:The mother of missing British 4-year-old Madeleine McCann believes she's being persecuted because of her looks, and thinks that if she "had a bigger bosom and looked more maternal, people would be more sympathetic,(source).

I have been very sympathetic. I never once looked at how she looked as a woman to decide whether or not my sympathy would exist or not. I am so sorry for the family. I am sorry for the Law Enforcement Agencies in Portugal, that were under extreme scrutiny because this was a British family.(you could also insert American and get the same results). Portugal is not inept. Yet they have been treated that way. Which takes me full circle to another little blond girl. One who was found, and was found murdered in her own home. One that had many clues, but the focus was turned from the statistics to how bad the police were. Parents getting an attorney first before meeting with the police. Hmm....I would be camped out at the police station. Attorney, why?

So as I stated earlier I refrained. I really do only care for the child. Mistake or intent, I solely wish for the answers to Maddie's disappearance. At least with the Ramsey's those in the extended family had closure. I fear that Maddie's siblings will never know.

As to Mrs. McCann, it is not your bust size. It is the mistake or intent...and we shall never know.


A Note From Theresa said...

This world is so messed up.

~Just A Thought Ginger said...

Are you kidding me? What does this mother look like? I have seen the news over and over and I have no idea. It's the face of this precious child that I see in my head! Lord help us all!

Pam said...

I had not heard that quote Jen. It sickens me. I from day one had a bad feeling about this case.

Jen in MS said...

I heard about her comment too. I just think that would be the least of my thoughts or concerns if I had a missing child. Weird.


My thoughts exactly. I couldn't believe she had said something so stupid. When her child is dead or missing or no telling what other horrible circumstance. That just makes me angry. Good , very good post. connie from Texas